Never Force Anyone To Talk To You – Here is why!

never force anyone to talk to you
Written by Aakif

Often you like to talk to someone, or you have a crush on a person; but, at the same time, he or she ignores you. Although such an attitude is hard to digest, you should never force anyone to talk to you.

Forcing someone to talk to you is counterproductive. It does no good to you. So better give others the taste of their own medicine than begging for their attention.

“In life don’t force anyone to talk to you… And don’t neglect anyone who always wants to talk to you.”


When you beg someone to talk to you, you get nothing to gain but much to lose. It is for this reason that not a single sane voice would suggest forcing people to talk to you.

Here is a few most important reasons why you should avoid forcing anyone to talk to you.

Reasons why you should never force anyone to talk to you

I know it’s really hard to avoid asking for attention from people with whom you have a sort of emotional attachment. Still, for the following reasons, one should never force anyone to talk.

  • Keep your Self Esteem your Priority

When you force anyone to talk to you, you lose your self-esteem. You bring yourself down in his/her eye. This is something that cannot be justified.

People only care about those who have a sense of self-worth. If you cannot keep yourself up, do not think that others will do it for you.

Never beg for others’ attention. The time that you would spend talking to someone can be spent in a much more productive way.

It is better to immerse yourself in some productive activities like reading good books, or newspapers; listening to productive podcasts, and watching movies, so that you would not need to give a hoot about people who do not care about you.

  • Begging them to talk, People would start taking you for granted

Things that come easily become worthless. On the other hand, things that take much effort to attain are the most valuable.

“Nothing worth having comes easy.”

Theodore Roosevelt

Your value is in your own hand. If you are readily available for people all the time, people will stop valuing you. On the other hand, by becoming rare you will make yourself more valuable to people.

So, make yourself valuable!

  • Forcing others to talk to you will make you look like a piece of S***

I’m sorry if it offended you but I could not find any other proper phrase (euphemism) to express your situation.

Nobody likes a person who is clingy and who would keep nagging others for attention. You cannot make your place in others’ lives by begging them to talk to you.

If someone is ignoring you, simply ignore him/her. Hide your frustration. Engage yourself in other activities. Talk to other people. This is the only feasible way left to you to make that person feel bad or miserable.

Either you would want to become a diamond or remain a piece of s*** for others, the choice is entirely yours!

  • A mature Person would never force anyone to talk

Maturity attracts people. People usually do not like immature people. Maturity is judged by a person’s actions and behavior.

If you want to be liked, if you want people to talk to you, you have to act maturely. How do you do that? That’s simple; by not forcing people to talk to you.

On the other hand, if you would keep forcing someone to talk to you, you will appear very immature. Let me repeat again, nobody likes an immature person.

So, act maturely and it definitely demands giving others some space.

  • Your Silence is sometimes more Impactful than your Voice

When you feel you are not getting enough attention that you deserve; when you feel ignored while wanting to talk to someone; be silent!

Silence conveys a more powerful message than words. Silence is never empty, it is full of words. On the other hand, begging, complaining, and forcing others to talk is always hollow talk.

“Sometimes you don’t have to say anything. Silence speaks it all.”

Disha Patani

In short, silence can do miracles. Your silence will irritate the other person who would ultimately open up to you sooner or later.

That’s psychology!

  • Secure Peace of Mind by Distancing yourself from Toxic People

People who play with your emotions are the most toxic ones. If someone is avoiding you or not talking to you, he is simply playing with your emotions.

So, it is better to avoid such people. Subtracting such people from your life will bring you peace of mind.

 “Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”

Dalai Lama

Always keep your inner peace your priority.

  • Replacing People with the Right Choice

Last but not least, there are more than 7.5 billion people in the world. Why are you chasing the one who does not want to talk to you?

You should go for the right person. There is always a right match.

Wrapping Up

Hundreds of reasons can be forwarded as to why one should not force anyone to talk to oneself. On contrary, not a single justified reason can be given on why you should force people to talk to you.

People are free to choose what they like; free to interact with people whom they like, and similarly free to avoid people who would keep on getting in their hair.

Be the one whom people themselves would love to talk to. You must avoid being a scumbag who would force people to talk to him.

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